All too often people mistake love as this feeling of chance or a mystical emotion that cannot be explained. I am writing to prove that love isn’t a noun but is a verb. The idiom, ” Fall in Love” is a funny expression because the term “fall” is usually associated with an accident or something unplanned. Rarely does anyone mean to fall down, yet this is the most common saying when it comes to love, why? I cannot offer any information on the origin of this saying, but would like to offer an alternative view on love.
Have you ever considered that love is a choice that originates in the mind? Wait we all know that the heart is the golden standard when it comes to love, but I think that true love starts in the mind and then progresses. We all make a conscious decision when it comes to who we love. These decisions are hopefully based more on who the person is rather than just physical attraction. Many have been fooled by a pretty face only to find there is no connection or anything of worth on the inside, alternatively many have been dismissed because they may not look a certain way. Now I am not saying physical attraction isn’t important but it should not be at the top of your list.
What is love to me? Recently I was studying and stumbled across a talk on marriage by Lynn G. Robbins, in this talk he describes love as a verb, nothing has made more sense to me. Everyone has experience infatuation at some point only to have those feelings fade into obscurity. Does this mean you have fallen out of love? No, it simply means you are moving on to a much greater form of love. True love progresses through a lifetime of commitment, action, and loyalty. Loyalty is love in my opinion.
Nothing demonstrates how much someone cares for someone else than by consistently being there and having their back. By demonstrating loyalty over time confidence and peace will rein supreme. Your companion and yourself will know that you can over come the waves of life together. True love is complete commitment in mind and soul. The only way love can withstand all of the pressures of today’s world is to be completely committed to your choice. A simple phrase that has eternal consequences states, “Choose who you love, and love your choice.”
This leads me to the phrase, “I love You.” I believe that this phrase is a promise of behavior and commitment rather than an expression of emotion. When we tell someone that we love them we are declaring that we are committed to them, that we will be there for them, that we will strive to help them in anyway, and in any circumstance. The choice to love is an all important decision to make.
Caution must be employed as you are making such an important choice. This is why you must find someone that you are compatible with, someone who is loyal, someone who will stick with you, and someone that consistently proves that they care for you. If you choose to love someone who doesn’t treat you properly it could make happiness even more elusive. With that being said be optimistic that love is a choice, it isn’t something that is simply left up to fate or accident!
Many may vehemently disagree because many of the things that I have written about is vastly different than how the masses view love, but just because something is different doesn’t mean it is wrong. There have been many tales of love at first sight, but I wholeheartedly believe that love evolves over time into something far greater. Love is a verb, it is an action!
Now get out there and find someone worth loving! If you’ve already found someone continually choose to love them and greater happiness is just around the corner.
“Choose who you love, and love your choice.”
Nunc Coepi 